How do you communicate with your toddler? Did you know in the toddler world communication is much more than just words? How is your tone, your body language, and your responsiveness? Does your child have his own signs he uses to let you know what he wants? Sometimes it may just be a grunt. As adults we usually know what that grunt means, and it may mean more than one thing. At this point as children are learning new words and filing away more and more each day, we need to be clear and consistent with our communication skills.

When talking to a child I get on his level. I use a slight touch on the child’s back or wrap my arm around his waist to let him know he has my full attention. Using a slight touch helps because children respond to touch and it shows that you care what they are saying. Toddlers are physical. A big part of their world are their senses. When a child touches he/she is usually communicating. When a child crawls into your lap he may be looking for reassurance. When a child takes your hand he wants to show you something he found. When a child is reading with you and snuggles up next to you they may be seeking comfort. For a child who doesn’t speak yet, this is him communicating.

When talking to toddlers I remember to slow down. I speak clearly and listen to each child with respect. This point is really important to me. Sometimes, as adults, we dismiss what our child is saying because we are busy. We are moving too fast and we don’t catch what our child is saying. More importantly, if we aren’t looking at them we miss what they’re not saying. Give them the respect that you give every adult at work. Stop, look at them, listen, and respond. Just think of what a great example you are setting. Toddlers are great at mimicking.   If we use words like “please”, they do too.

Earlier, I pointed out speaking clearly. Use correct words with your child. He is learning so many new words each day. Baby talk can be confusing and others may not be able to understand what your child is saying. Calling a cow a “moo” is giving your child the wrong name for a cow. Remember that toddlers need real words. Toddlers also love trying out new words. I hear words in my classroom like, “actually”  all the time.

One of the many things I love about the Montessori toddler room is their involvement and concentration on their work. In our classroom we try to find times when we aren’t interrupting to talk to a child or ask a question. Using a quiet voice helps too. We are role-models for children.  If we yell across the room chances are the toddlers will too. So, I walk across the room, get on the child’s level and quietly ask if he/she would like some snack?

It’s easy to get caught up in a fast paced world. Working with toddlers reminds me there is a big beautiful world out there. Toddlers are seeing this world with fresh new eyes. Isn’t lovely that we get to observe it again through their eyes with language and how they communicate their world to us.

Sincerely,

Kristy